Posted by: secondchancehumanesociety | January 23, 2008

Working and Playing with Pets, as told by Merry

Merry - Author of Week

Merry - Author of Week

My name is Merry, I was rescued at Christmas time. When I was rescued and taken to Second Chance I was in pretty rough shape. I had not been provided the care that I deserve. Fortunately, my exuberant and forgiving personality has allowed me to fully heal and now I am merrily awaiting new parents.

So today I wanted to write about what it means when you make a decision to bring a pet into your life. This week’s pet column is not about preaching but rather about promoting a philosophy that my friends here at Second Chance Humane Society believe in. They believe that if this philosophy were adopted by all there would no longer be a need for animal shelters.

Fortunately, the status of pets today has greatly evolved from that of purely a guard or service dog, or for cats away from just being a mouser, to being an actual part of the family. Yes, we still serve in those helpful roles but now we do so while enjoying a deeper bond to those who are responsible for us. People are now learning to appreciate and respond to our individuality, our feelings and emotions, and our great social need to connect with our humans.

People now understand that the inner nature of pets requires a sense of parenting and not ownership. The big difference is that ownership can denote a detached relationship allowing us to be dismissed or discarded while parenting is about responsibility and a love-based bond. I am looking to be parented.

From a parenting role a pet’s needs and desires are attended to while understanding that pets are not always going to make the best choices for themselves – like a dependent child we don’t have the foresight to think that eating an entire pizza will give us a belly ache. We live quite instinctually and in the moment and pizza tastes very good in the moment.

Like young children, dogs don’t realize that leaning out of the back of the truck is dangerous and could lead to being thrown from the truck. We don’t realize that running free about town, although fun, can lead to untimely death by vehicle collision. We don’t realize that barking all night long keeps the neighbors awake. As the adult human in the relationship you have a responsibility, as you would a child, to do our forward thinking for us.

And, as a dog with emotions, hopes, and a great desire to bond with a human, I hope that my new parent’s sense of responsibility includes honoring all these pieces of me. I want to feel like a part of my new family, not apart from them.

In closing I want to encourage all to reflect upon the responsibility involved in parenting a pet. Although it is not nearly as demanding as a child, a “parent-pet” relationship will foster a respectful bond with your pet that is far more meaningful than a sense of “ownership” ever can.

Merry, the author of this weeks Pet Column, is a young beautiful Chocolate Lab who is ready and willing to teach any responsible person or family the true meaning of the human-animal bond…

Call the Second Chance Helpline at 626-2273 to report a lost pet, learn about adopting a homeless pet, or about the SCHS Spay/Neuter Voucher Program, Volunteer & Foster Care, or other pet questions. For more information on SCHS, or to visit our shelter pets online, go to: Responses or question regarding a Pet Column can be sent to:




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